#BertsRants

I was just asked why when I compliment women at work, I don't get in trouble with HR. So I figured I would share my secret to the world. The secret to not getting an HR call is making sure that compliments aren't the only time you talk to a woman, and making sure that it is an actual, simple, compliment and not a flirt or judgment of her looks. For example, if a coworker is wearing a skirt that you think looks cute, then say EXACTLY that at the END of a convo, "by the way, that's a cute skirt." That's it, that's the entire compliment, and it was at the end of a normal conversation. Keep it short and simple and move on. Why does this work? Because believe it or not, women are people too, and deserved to be spoken to as such. Which means having conversations on a regular basis that involve no compliments at all. It also means leaving compliments for the end of a convo to make sure that it is taken as a genuine compliment and not a flirt attempt. When you...

I keep seeming to detach from reality for short periods of time ;  e verything from being amazed at how my body turns food into waste  to the fact that basil is just a  crushed - up   leaf.  There are times every day where one normal thing will just be completely amazing to me like it was all brand new to me. I panic at the thought of dying before Paige and leaving her alone.  Not just get worried, but have full on panic attacks because I don't want to leave her alone with nothing. I have nothing to leave her besides my life insurance, and even that's not much.  I see anything on tv or movies about a woman being a widow at an early age and I worry that it's going to happen to Paige and I won't be able to be there for her. I worry that my kids are young enough they would forget me. I worry that my older two won't get to see Paige and the other two as much as they should. I worry that people are going to use her pain to take advantage of her and ...

You promised me you wouldn't leave, that you would be my friend and you wouldn't leave. You promised it time and time and time again. Then, when life got rough for me and I needed people to lean on, you vanished. You ghosted yourself from me without a word and pretended like it was no big deal. You swore you would never treat me like people in the past have, and yet here we are. Well, more like here I am. Here I am standing by myself without you anywhere near by. Here I am going through this without you and I can't get your promises out of my head. You swore to me that you wouldn't leave, no matter what the circumstances. I know I am not the easiest person to be around often. Being in constant physical pain can make me a bit on edge. My anxiety is always there and attacks can be pretty intense to deal with. I told you all about them from the beggining, I warned you about their intensities, and I made sure you understood how this all worked. I explained all of this and ...

"Everyone wants a better life, very few of us want to be better people." Where in, it is therapeutic to get these thoughts and rants out, I am really kind of tired of how many rants I have in my mind that I want to write about and share. EVERY SINGLE DAY there is something new in the world that makes me want to take my family, sell off 95% of our belongings, and go survive in the woods somewhere in our camper. Hang enough blankets and turn on the heater and we could survive the winter. We would need electric hook up though so I could charge our devices for alarms and such like that. So maybe a friends backyard who has property and a LONG extension cord on its own circuit. "Does it make me weak, or rather, just human, that I run away from things I love the moment they start to hurt me?" Our children need school and I don't know if I or my wife are up for home schooling. Although, I mean, I could technically do it, I have access to all the appropriate materi...

This was my comment to a friend discussing my issues with Documentary's , where my initial comment had a cynical tone to it saying I didn't like how they admitted to sensationalizing parts of it to entertain rather than educate. Yes, but I have the same tone towards any documentary made pushing one opinion over another. It is common practice to pick and choose the data and opinions that you want people to hear, and minimize any information that might go against what you're trying to convey. Let's jump back to the movie super size me. Everyone got all up in arms about how eye opening that movie was, yet no one paid attention to the fact that he overestimated the laziness of the average American. That movie has been proven as slanted time and time again but people still swear by it. You're right the masses don't read peer reviewed articles, they don't have to because people make documentaries telling them that it's all the info they need. That'...

This post is a link to my blog post I did on Anxiety, My Dark Unwanted Passenger called Suicide isn't painless, it just passes the pain to others I have seen WAY too many deaths from suicide lately, WAY too many drug overdoses, WAY too many mental break downs, all because because we don't take mental illnesses serious enough, and those with it are so afraid of the stigma they just give up. Don't give up, never give up, this is the only life you have (or if reincarnation is true, the only one you're going to remember), make it count. Please go read it. PLEASE.

I do not understand why people get so upset when they see a man and woman together who have other partners. When I asked why this is so taboo I am told, "well, what will people think, it just looks bad." What looks bad, me being a friend? Me spending time with someone who's company I enjoy? So just because the friend is a different biological makeup than me, if I am alone with them there must be something sexual going on? How low is your opinion of me that you might see me with a woman who isn't my wife, and your first thought is that I am cheating? Really? Your first thought is that if a man and woman are together without their partners they must be up to no good? Do you really have that low self control over yourself? Do you really not think a man and a woman can JUST be friends? Come out of the dark ages and realize that the more you push that, the more of a self fulfilling prophecy it becomes. When you teach it to children, then every time they are a...

I am so sick of reading articles online that quote sources without actually quoting anyone at all. Let's give an example from an article I was reading today. The article was explaining why teaching Children about Christianity at a young age is not brainwashing. (I have been doing a TON of research into Christianity as of late, but that is a whole other topic and not what this post is about.) The author writes this as the second paragraph in the article ( source ): "Educators and other “experts” who embrace  evolution  declare that children taught to reject an evolutionary worldview will never understand the world around them. Many say that such children will be academic failures. Children will grow up to be unproductive citizens of the modern world, these experts warn, if they do not accept molecules-to-man  evolution  over millions of years as fact." Now here is a perfect example of what bugs me, no where in here is there anything to back up the authors claims...

So I keep seeing people try to have conversations about why people think a fast food worker deserves $15/hr, and it always spirals out of control quickly. I am here to say that I agree with them, but not that they deserve $15/hr, they deserve a raise appropriate to inflation. I believe that the problem isn't how much millennials  make per hour, but how far $1 goes. $1 went MUCH further for baby boomers than it does for millennials  once you factor in inflation, and I'll prove it. I keep hearing how baby boomers worked more for less, however that is ONLY when you don't take inflation into account, and you MUST take inflation into account if you want to be honest about what's going on. See, once you factor in inflation, baby boomers actually worked less for more. That's not an opinion of mine, that is fact. Cost of living was less and wages were more, again, once you figure in inflation. So actually, we are making cents on the dollar for a 40 hour a week job in co...

Good morning people,I was going to write today about my loathing of the president, but that's just WAY too much to get into today and I do not have enough Zen to get into it.Then I thought about writing about all the man babies crying because they chose a woman to play the next Doctor on Doctor Who, but I decided to actually post that to a Geek/Nerd Blog that I co-write on.Then I thought I might complain about.........................Wait, why am I always complaining? Is that really all this blog is going to be about? I mean yes, it is "Byron's Rants About Life", but, must all Rants be inherently negative? A rant is defined as "to speak or shout at length in a wild, impassioned way." So must all Rant's be complaints, or can you Rant in an uplifting manner? Well, I guess technically that would be a Rave then wouldn't it? Course there are 3 main definitions to the word Rave. First there is Rave is in a wild party, usually electronic music and lots of...

Why is the press allowed to paraphrase and spin things the direction they want with no recourse when they spin it in a way that goes against the facts? Why do we read news that is proven to have a spin and not just have the facts given to us? Are we that incapable for coming up with our own opinions that we need the news to give us our opinion? If you read the facts on a situation, you should be able to figure out how it relates to you, and where you want to go from there with it. You shouldn't need some journalist (and I use that term very loosely with today's media) telling you how YOU should feel about something. You shouldn't need the media to tell you what you believe and how to think. You are your own mind, your own beliefs, and your own ability to reason, right? So why do we allow just obvious corruption in our media? Watch news reports on the same topic, covered by Fox News, CNN, ABC World News, CBS Nightly News, NBC Nightly News, BBC News, Vice News, The Daily Sh...

So yes, another post on the train of getting along. And yes, there will probably be a ton more posts on her about getting along. Although yes, I am sure you will get quite sick of them. However yes, you're right that I don't care if you're sick of them. Because yes, if the world is still hating on each other then I will keep harping on it. I watched a video today from a Christian comedian that I found funny. It was a woman who was telling other women the five questions they should never ask their husband. Judging by her words and the crowds reaction I am guessing she was at a conference for conservatives. She does a whole ten or so minute spiel on how there are five questions that women should never ask men. She was polite about it, the crowd laughed, and everyone had a great time. Well, everyone that is except the people commenting on the video on Facebook. According to these comments this women's whole thing was the most disgusting, anti feminism, anti equality thin...

Are you aware, that even though there are differences biologically between Men and Women, neither are biologically inferior to the other? Are you aware, that even though the physiology of Men and Women are different, neither one is superior to the other? Are you aware, that even though Men and Women serve different purposes for reproduction, both are just as necessary for life to continue? Are you aware, that although throughout most of history Men have been superior to Women, they actually aren't? Are you aware, that despite so many cultures and religions telling you otherwise, Men and Women should be equal partners in everything? I ask if you are aware, and yet this world is proving that apparently most of you AREN'T aware of that. We have no women on the congressional counsel for women's health and rights. We also don't allow men to have time off when they have a baby. We still tell women to submit to their husbands in wedding vows and make them swear it in fro...