No I am not going behind her back!

I do not understand why people get so upset when they see a man and woman together who have other partners. When I asked why this is so taboo I am told, "well, what will people think, it just looks bad."

What looks bad, me being a friend? Me spending time with someone who's company I enjoy?

So just because the friend is a different biological makeup than me, if I am alone with them there must be something sexual going on? How low is your opinion of me that you might see me with a woman who isn't my wife, and your first thought is that I am cheating? Really? Your first thought is that if a man and woman are together without their partners they must be up to no good? Do you really have that low self control over yourself? Do you really not think a man and a woman can JUST be friends?

Come out of the dark ages and realize that the more you push that, the more of a self fulfilling prophecy it becomes. When you teach it to children, then every time they are alone with someone their opposite, that will be the FIRST thought in their head. Now you are just as responsible for anything that happens as they are. We need to teach children that it is OKAY to be friends with someone of the opposite gender and that the two people interacting is NOT automatically sexual in nature.

We have a generation being taught that sex is wrong, but that if you are ever alone with someone then people will assume you've had sex. So where in there is ANY reason for them to abstain from sexual activities? You've already told them people will assume they've had sex anyways, so they figure they might as well. Now we have more teen pregnancies than ever before and all the older generations want to do is teach MORE abstinence, and take away any access to preventive measures of any kind. Because everyone knows that they only way to fix something is to stick our heads in the sand and become even more stubborn.

If you ever see me with a female friend, and you wonder if I am hiding things and cheating on my wife, just go ahead and detach yourself from my life. I don't need anyone in my life who has that low of respect for me and things that poorly of me. Especially if I am IN PUBLIC with the person, I don't understand how that thought could cross your mind. If I were trying to cheat and hide things from my wife, there is NO WAY I would be seen in public doing such things. I will NEVER cheat on my wife, there are NO secrets between us. She's knows more about me than anyone ever has or ever will.

This culture of fear and constant assumptions is horrible and needs to stop.