So yes, another post on the train of getting along. And yes, there will probably be a ton more posts on her about getting along. Although yes, I am sure you will get quite sick of them. However yes, you're right that I don't care if you're sick of them. Because yes, if the world is still hating on each other then I will keep harping on it.
I watched a video today from a Christian comedian that I found funny. It was a woman who was telling other women the five questions they should never ask their husband. Judging by her words and the crowds reaction I am guessing she was at a conference for conservatives. She does a whole ten or so minute spiel on how there are five questions that women should never ask men. She was polite about it, the crowd laughed, and everyone had a great time. Well, everyone that is except the people commenting on the video on Facebook. According to these comments this women's whole thing was the most disgusting, anti feminism, anti equality thing they had ever heard. I kept reading the comments and all I could think of was the line, "thou doeth protest too much."
I understand if you have a relationship where the line, "Does this dress make me look fat" is never asked then you might not find that very funny. I understand if you think she is wrong when she tells women to just come out and ask the man is opinion on a specific thing rather than waiting for him to comment. I understand that her saying women are lost when they look under the hood of a car is a bit outdated. I get all that, honest I really do. My issue however is that at no point was she actually offensive. Everything she talked about fit her audience and was appropriate for where she was.
We live in a world where everyone is "triggered" by everything. To the point that a white woman locally sued a coffee chain called Beaners claiming it was racist against Hispanics. Or PETA sueing a photographer on behalf of a monkey over the rights to a Selfie the monkey took with the photographers camera. Or the All Lives Matter movement that was started because white people didn't understand that Black Lives Matter wasn't meant to say other lives meant less, but that their lives should mean as much as everyone else's.
So everyone is commenting on there angry that she is making comments about women no longer being allowed to ask questions that historically conservative white women ask their husbands. The questions are things that have been in movies and sitcoms since the dawn of TV. They were jokes that white conservatives have been making for as long as I have been alive. They were all jokes that were made for her target audience, delivered to her target audience, and done in an appropriate manner. Yet so many people have to comment about how her jokes are offensive to them because it doesn't fit their situation. So what? So it doesn't fit your situation, then don't laugh at the jokes. If the jokes have nothing to do with your life, then skip to the next video and move on with your life.
The whole point of her routine was saying that those types of questions are wrong and shouldn't be asked. The whole point of her routine was trying to stop age old traditions of women manipulating situations to get reactions out of their men. The whole point of her routine was to say that those types of relationships are bad and couples need to have proper communication. So where does anyone come off telling her that she is wrong for making the jokes? That means that you heard the jokes, got offended, and stopped paying attention to the actual message she was trying to get across. That means that you watched the video, and after you didn't like the first joke you spent the entire rest of the time thinking up what your comment on the video was going to be rather than actually paying attention to what was going on.
We spend so much time waiting to be offended by people who believe different than us that we don't stop to actually see if it is something that is really worth being offended over. I am ALL about male and female equality. I am ALL about breaking down barriers and accepting a person for who they are even if they are completely different from you. I am ALL about tearing down oppressive culture and making the world a safer place for all humanity. In that same thought, I am defending this woman's jokes because even though you may not agree that all women are like that, she never said that ALL women are like that. She was addressing the women in her audience, and judging be the laughter coming from the audience, everything she said was pretty spot on.
So please, choose your battles, and know what you're fighting for before you start fighting. Especially when you put your comments up where the whole world can see. Because when you get offended, about something that doesn't actually effect you, and isn't actually offensive, your just getting yourself riled up for nothing.
At least, that's my opinion on it.
I watched a video today from a Christian comedian that I found funny. It was a woman who was telling other women the five questions they should never ask their husband. Judging by her words and the crowds reaction I am guessing she was at a conference for conservatives. She does a whole ten or so minute spiel on how there are five questions that women should never ask men. She was polite about it, the crowd laughed, and everyone had a great time. Well, everyone that is except the people commenting on the video on Facebook. According to these comments this women's whole thing was the most disgusting, anti feminism, anti equality thing they had ever heard. I kept reading the comments and all I could think of was the line, "thou doeth protest too much."
I understand if you have a relationship where the line, "Does this dress make me look fat" is never asked then you might not find that very funny. I understand if you think she is wrong when she tells women to just come out and ask the man is opinion on a specific thing rather than waiting for him to comment. I understand that her saying women are lost when they look under the hood of a car is a bit outdated. I get all that, honest I really do. My issue however is that at no point was she actually offensive. Everything she talked about fit her audience and was appropriate for where she was.
We live in a world where everyone is "triggered" by everything. To the point that a white woman locally sued a coffee chain called Beaners claiming it was racist against Hispanics. Or PETA sueing a photographer on behalf of a monkey over the rights to a Selfie the monkey took with the photographers camera. Or the All Lives Matter movement that was started because white people didn't understand that Black Lives Matter wasn't meant to say other lives meant less, but that their lives should mean as much as everyone else's.
So everyone is commenting on there angry that she is making comments about women no longer being allowed to ask questions that historically conservative white women ask their husbands. The questions are things that have been in movies and sitcoms since the dawn of TV. They were jokes that white conservatives have been making for as long as I have been alive. They were all jokes that were made for her target audience, delivered to her target audience, and done in an appropriate manner. Yet so many people have to comment about how her jokes are offensive to them because it doesn't fit their situation. So what? So it doesn't fit your situation, then don't laugh at the jokes. If the jokes have nothing to do with your life, then skip to the next video and move on with your life.
The whole point of her routine was saying that those types of questions are wrong and shouldn't be asked. The whole point of her routine was trying to stop age old traditions of women manipulating situations to get reactions out of their men. The whole point of her routine was to say that those types of relationships are bad and couples need to have proper communication. So where does anyone come off telling her that she is wrong for making the jokes? That means that you heard the jokes, got offended, and stopped paying attention to the actual message she was trying to get across. That means that you watched the video, and after you didn't like the first joke you spent the entire rest of the time thinking up what your comment on the video was going to be rather than actually paying attention to what was going on.
We spend so much time waiting to be offended by people who believe different than us that we don't stop to actually see if it is something that is really worth being offended over. I am ALL about male and female equality. I am ALL about breaking down barriers and accepting a person for who they are even if they are completely different from you. I am ALL about tearing down oppressive culture and making the world a safer place for all humanity. In that same thought, I am defending this woman's jokes because even though you may not agree that all women are like that, she never said that ALL women are like that. She was addressing the women in her audience, and judging be the laughter coming from the audience, everything she said was pretty spot on.
So please, choose your battles, and know what you're fighting for before you start fighting. Especially when you put your comments up where the whole world can see. Because when you get offended, about something that doesn't actually effect you, and isn't actually offensive, your just getting yourself riled up for nothing.
At least, that's my opinion on it.
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